Self-worth

Have you had moments when you felt that you weren’t taken seriously? Or perhaps not important enough to be treated with more respect?

It could be when you were stood up for a date or when someone brushed your comments aside during a team meeting, whichever situation you find yourself questioning your self worth, ask yourself this:

Do I want to be treated this way?

By asking this question when you’re facing such situations it brings you to be more aware of your feelings while preventing you from going into a downward spiral of self-beating “I’m not good enough” chatter in the mind. This is especially beneficial when asked at that moment,

Nobody wants to be treated like their existence doesn’t matter (or to get to the point: crap).

Now that you’ve got your answer, say out it loud. Let that ‘NO’ be spoken and echoed in your heart, even if it’s just a whisper.

That’s right, you deserve to have be treated with more respect! Before you start ranting how you should not be treated that way ask yourself another question:

Am I treating myself with the respect I expect from others?

It is always easier to put the blame on others or be in a victim mode. But respect or your self-worth builds from within.

A good place to start is to be aware of your thoughts. Are you thinking that you’re going to be lonely and single forever or my boss sucks big time so I might as well don’t bother? (or along those self-defeating lines)

If you are please STOP.

These thoughts are not going to increase your self-value neither will it solve the situation.

Once you have checked what kind of thoughts are running through your mind, treat yourself respectively by looking at the bright side.

If your date stood you up, at least you know that she/he is not worth it because they didn’t respect your effort, time and even feelings.

If you boss brushed your comments aside during the meeting, probably he didn’t get the point yet, or it was not presented in the right setting. You can always give it one more try, show that you’re serious in what you do and chances are you will be shown the respect for your effort.

Please bear in mind that if you had your idea turned down it is not the end of the world. Now you know better which ideas don’t work with your boss so you won’t repeat the mistake in the future.

Ever person deserves respect and it starts from within. The value you put on yourself will reflect how other responds to you.

This is an important foundation for you set for yourself if you seek a more peaceful and happier life because the Universe can only give you what you believe in.

Start by asking yourself these 2 questions:
1. Do I want to be treated this way?
2. Am I treating myself with the respect I expect from others?

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