Do your goals come with excess baggage?

What are the first thoughts in your mind when you read these statements:

I want to travel the world
I want to own the car of my dreams
I want own an apartment of my own

Do you hear a little voice in your mind that whispers something along the lines of:

I need to have the money first
How in the world I’m going to finance these dreams of mine?
Who in their right mind would give me what I want just like that?

Uh-oh, be careful.

Perhaps you would start to belief that you will need money first before you could achieve your wants or goals. That’s the sign that you’re picking up excess baggage on your journey towards your goals. And boy, would it be a gruelling journey dragging that weight around.

Especially after The Secret boom, many have tried to manifest their dreams and goals but to little or no visible results until much later. Some might have given up along the way.

It is not that LOA doesn’t work. The Universe just gets confused on what you really want to manifest sometimes. For example:

One moment you want to own that BMW, then the other second you want money because you want to be able to purchase the car.

See the Universe as a waiter taking your order. If you keep changing your orders, how can the waiter deliver what you want?

Check your thoughts. Be clear with what you want and leave the rest to the Universe. The Universe always knows the best way to lead you towards your goals or wants.

How do we chuck those excess baggage away?

As we progress through our lives, our belief system is programmed based on each experience we go through which then affect our thinking, actions and beliefs.

A few tools that help us focus on our goals rather than the baggage that comes with it are:

Vision board:
A vision board is a board where you put a collage of pictures, words or notes that reflects your wants or goals.

Put it at a place that you will see it often such as on the wall in front of your workdesk, next to your mirror or any other places that you are able to see it as often as possible. This tool can help you to stay focus on the goal, conditioning your mind on the outcome rather than the ‘how’s.

Prayer:
Another way you can do it is through prayer. Regardless of what religious background you come from, a little prayer can bring you a long way. Or if it feels more comfortable to you, offer a little request to the Universe for some help. (For more on the power of prayer with a scientific twist, my recommended read is “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” by Dr. Joseph Murphy)

Repeat your prayer whenever you feel down or negative about your goals. Say your prayer in the morning when you get out of bed and just before you sleep. This will help you set your subconscious mind towards your goals. This acts as a boost towards manifesting your goals. :)

Hope these 2 tips are able to help you focus on your goals and reduce your baggage or beliefs that come along with your goals.

Other methods that I highly recommend to release those baggages are (click for more info):

• The Work by Katie Byron
• Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

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Break free from your baggage and run free towards your goals!

Self-worth

Have you had moments when you felt that you weren’t taken seriously? Or perhaps not important enough to be treated with more respect?

It could be when you were stood up for a date or when someone brushed your comments aside during a team meeting, whichever situation you find yourself questioning your self worth, ask yourself this:

Do I want to be treated this way?

By asking this question when you’re facing such situations it brings you to be more aware of your feelings while preventing you from going into a downward spiral of self-beating “I’m not good enough” chatter in the mind. This is especially beneficial when asked at that moment,

Nobody wants to be treated like their existence doesn’t matter (or to get to the point: crap).

Now that you’ve got your answer, say out it loud. Let that ‘NO’ be spoken and echoed in your heart, even if it’s just a whisper.

That’s right, you deserve to have be treated with more respect! Before you start ranting how you should not be treated that way ask yourself another question:

Am I treating myself with the respect I expect from others?

It is always easier to put the blame on others or be in a victim mode. But respect or your self-worth builds from within.

A good place to start is to be aware of your thoughts. Are you thinking that you’re going to be lonely and single forever or my boss sucks big time so I might as well don’t bother? (or along those self-defeating lines)

If you are please STOP.

These thoughts are not going to increase your self-value neither will it solve the situation.

Once you have checked what kind of thoughts are running through your mind, treat yourself respectively by looking at the bright side.

If your date stood you up, at least you know that she/he is not worth it because they didn’t respect your effort, time and even feelings.

If you boss brushed your comments aside during the meeting, probably he didn’t get the point yet, or it was not presented in the right setting. You can always give it one more try, show that you’re serious in what you do and chances are you will be shown the respect for your effort.

Please bear in mind that if you had your idea turned down it is not the end of the world. Now you know better which ideas don’t work with your boss so you won’t repeat the mistake in the future.

Ever person deserves respect and it starts from within. The value you put on yourself will reflect how other responds to you.

This is an important foundation for you set for yourself if you seek a more peaceful and happier life because the Universe can only give you what you believe in.

Start by asking yourself these 2 questions:
1. Do I want to be treated this way?
2. Am I treating myself with the respect I expect from others?

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Thoughts

The Moment you are in Tension
You will lose your Attention
Then you are in total Confusion
And you will feel Irritation
Then you will spoil personal Relation
Ultimately, you won't get Co - Operation
Then you will make things Complication
Then your blood pressure may raise Caution
And you may have to take Medication
Instead, understand the Situation
And try to think about the Solution
Many problems will be solved by Discussion
This will work out better in your Profession
Don't think it's my free Suggestion
It's only for your Prevention
If you understand my Intention
You will never come again to Tension

- Bill Gates


I received this forward in my inbox recently which I think I should to share. Also, it so happens to be related to the topic of my post today which is the importance of your thoughts.

"Your outer circumstances are but a reflection of your inner thoughts."
Various authors

We act according to our emotions. For instance when we're happy we smile or when we're angry we clench our fists. All these actions are the results of your emotions but what causes you to feel those emotions?

It's your thoughts.

When I say thoughts it's actually your reaction to situations.

Take football fans for example. When their favourite team scores a goal, they'll jump up from their seats and throw their fists in the air or high-five their friends around them.

But when their team loses the ball to the opponent during a critical time, immediately the fans would groan and slap their foreheads, displaying their frustration over the mistake.

Whether we are football fans or not, we react pretty much the same way as they do, only in different situations.

It can happen anytime and anywhere... in your class, while you're working on your assignments, with your friends, when you're discussing with your parents, when you're at your part-time job and even when you're alone in your room.

If you can recall the last time you regretted losing your temper too quickly or for stressing too much about something that you have no control of, you'll understand what I mean.

It's not easy to control your emotions which affects your reaction but what you can control is your thoughts!

When you're angry, think of the positive side of things or whatever thoughts that can lighten your mood - there'll be less fist fights or quarrels.

When you're frustrated, stay away from the problem for awhile, take a walk and think of the good things that happened to you recently - you'll get to avoid burnouts and calm your mind.

Or when you're sad, listen to your favourite songs, think of 3 good things to be happy about yourself or the situation (every cloud has a silver lining) - things won't seem so bad after all. Who knows you'll find a solution to your problem?

So when you find yourself feeling under the blue, frustrated, extremely stressed or angry, stop and check your thoughts. Turn them around positively and look forward to a better outcome.

It's much better than resulting to medications when things go out of hand right?


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